Hello my MotherWise Family. We are all so excited to share this new journey with you, and we would also like to share a bit about ourselves so you can learn more about us, and what has brought us to this point in our lives. My name is Jackie Nickerson. Born and raised in a suburb of Detroit, Michigan. I am married to a wonderful man named Asu; we have a beautiful daughter named Ella, and we are expecting our second child mid-July after 3 years of TTC (Trying To Conceive). One of our life goals as a family is to live on a farm, and be self-sufficient. Gardening, raising chickens, and having tons of land is something we aim for and talk about regularly. My husband has been a huge support system for my throughout our parenting journey this far, he actually introduce a lot of the AP ways to me from being raised that way. He was raised in a family that practiced full term breastfeeding, bed-sharing, baby-wearing, whole food eating, and he was also left intact. So when he talked about those things they all resonated with me very well, and felt natural and normal.
Once I discovered the world of peaceful parenting I never looked back. I was hooked, amazed, and in awe of this natural/instinctual way of raising our children that seemed to be ignored in our culture. It started out when my daughter was 2 months old, and had a vaccine reaction to her two month vaccines. Immediately following the appointment she started screaming on the drive home, and for the next 5-6 hours would not stop. That night I held her close to me while she slept on my chest. That night she stopped breathing two times. I often think what would have happened if I had put her down in a crib, and I was not there to give her mouth to mouth; what if she was sleeping in another room, and I didn’t notice her loosing her color? Anything could have happened that night, but I am so thankful that I was right there to help my child. Ever since that night that I have been a sponge for information. I couldn’t get my hands on enough, and was just so surprised that while I was pregnant, all of the mainstream books I read only provided one side of parenting choices, which did not really resonate with me. While I was pregnant I knew I wanted to breastfeed, and have a natural birth, I just did not have the resources to really get more information on those things, and dove into it blind. I think that is a huge issue in today’s society; more parents would go with their instincts if they had the backing, and support in their decisions. And this is why we here at MotherWise want to make a community of like minded people to help support, and guide each other through this amazing journey of parenthood.
I am really looking forward to getting to know all of the wonderful people who make up this amazing community, and helping create useful information that will hopefully get to the hands of parents, and care providers in need. With a BS in Psychology, and a constant student of life I feel I can offer amazing insight, and helpful advice. I am currently working on becoming a certified parenting coach, and doula. I had a very traumatic surgical birth with my first daughter. I was pushed around, and bullied– I had no support, and while I had “all natural” on my chart, that is as far as my birth plan went. I did not know that I had options, I was unaware that a doula even existed, and when I came into that hospital and they hooked me up to pitocin it was all downhill from there. The nurse told me that the pitocin would just help to “speed things up” and that I would still be birthing “natura.l” After laboring in a bed for 7 hours with the pitocin cranked all the way up I am sure you can imagine the domino effect of interventions that followed. I now have a love/hate relationship with my birth; while it did traumatize me and leave me broken for a while it also changed my views, and now I feel I can put that evenrgy towards helping other women with their birthing options, and giving women support through a very new/exciting/emotional time in their life is something I feel so strongly about.
Activism, and social justice are a couple more things that are a driving force in my life. Genital cutting (male/female), CIO (Cry it out), punitive parenting, racism, sexism, and bigotry are some things that I am staunchly against. However, I do think we could change the course of humanity if we practiced compassion, gentle discipline, empathy, and instinctual parenting with our children from birth.
Breastfeeding, birthing options, alternative parenting methods, whole food living, GMO’s, unschooling, and circumcision are a few of the topics that I love to discuss and talk about. I feel like these very important topics are often times looked over, or just forgotten about. In a society that is crumbling before our eyes we need to come together, and really look at how we raise and treat the next generation. I believe that our children are the key to changing the course of all things going wrong now, and we have the power to give them the tools they need to be loving, accepting, empathetic, problem solvers. We as parents just need the right tools in our hands to be able to provide our children with all that they deserve.
I am so thankful that we live in a day and age where we are able to access so much support via the internet, and while I have my days where I am totally over Facebook I really believe it is a wonderful support system for the parenting community. I have met so many wonderful people who have helped me along this parenting journey, steered me in the right direction, and have just been a huge support system for me as a SAHM (stay at home mom). Kristen and I met each other through our online activism, and became close pretty quickly. Maybe it has to do with the fact that our star signs are in perfect harmony with each other, but we instantly clicked. After months of talking nightly for hours the idea of MotherWise surfaced, and it has now become a reality. I don’t think either of us could really put into words how excited we are about all of this, and how all of the fans really help, and contribute so much to our mission in getting factual, evidence-based information to parents in need.
I cannot wait to begin this journey, and continue my education in all things to do with natural living and parenting. To learn and grow along with each and every one of you is something I get excited about on a daily basis. If we remember to keep an open mind and take in all of the information, things just start to make so much sense. Letting go of a reality you thought had always been right, and being receptive to factual information and natural instincts is a very freeing, empowering thing that will just fall into place with ease. Thank you all for taking to time to learn a bit about me, and I look forward to hearing from you in the future. -Jackie