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    💖 #gentleparenting #parenting #consciousparent 💖 #gentleparenting #parenting #consciousparenting
    People-pleasing, obedience, lack of boundaries, in People-pleasing, obedience, lack of boundaries, invalidation of needs and feelings — these issues affect people from childhood into adulthood. When we have babies, it’s not an adornment or a personal accomplishment or a source of ego pride — it’s a contract with our children and our communities to raise humans who will do more good than harm, who strive to better the world, who function with empathy and emotional intelligence. Children grow up believing that their needs are too much when they face invalidation and neglect. Neglect can be as “small” as having a parent who never sets down their phone and listens enthusiastically when their child is speaking. Invalidation can look like anything from, “stop crying, you’re fine” to denying a child’s personality, interests, or identity. When kids feel ashamed of their feelings, they learn to feel ashamed of their very being. Validating feelings can be uncomfortable, because those feelings often don’t make sense to us. No, you can’t have the toy. Sorry I cut your banana the wrong way. Sorry, but we do have to leave the park now. But validating feelings doesn’t mean giving in. It’s holding a boundary while empathizing. We empathize because children don’t have impulse control or emotional regulation. Their brains are not fully developed, so big feelings are normal, impulsive behavior is normal, and needing help to emotionally regulate is normal. This can sound like, “it looks like you’re really frustrated/sad/mad that we have to leave/can’t get the toy. It’s ok to be sad. I’m here if you want a hug. We have to leave now/can’t get the toy.” Repeat as needed. Soon enough, kids get older, their brains develop further, and they’ve received the gift of co-regulation instead of hitting and harsh punishment. This nurtures healthy cognitive development and sends our kids into adulthood with the ability to express and regulate themselves in a healthy way. Aka conscious parenting can change the world. #gentleparenting #gentlediscipline #parenting #consciousparenting #emotionalintelligence
    Via @blacktherapistsrock ・・・ “The paradox Via @blacktherapistsrock ・・・ “The paradox of education is precisely this — that as one begins to become conscious one begins to examine the society in which he is being educated.” James Baldwin
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    Via @sternasuissa and @thedionnedavis ・・・ Via @sternasuissa and @thedionnedavis ・・・ “A lot of the mainstream ways of disciplining children would be considered abuse when done to an adult. Once we see 👀 through this, there’s no way we don’t see it! It can be so hard to navigate because it’s the common way of handling children in schools and many parenting experts, doctors and educated individuals are unfortunately giving such advice all the time. When getting advice, we can simply ask ourselves: would I do this to an adult? How would it feel if it was done to me? It’s that simple. If we don’t treat an adult in such a way, then it’s best not to treat a child in that way!! ⠀ This post isn’t about finding ourselves being reactive and falling into such behaviours and recognizing that it’s not okay to treat any human in such a way. This post is for the many individuals who believe treating children in this way is what benefits children’s wellbeing 💔🥺. How is this okay and why has this been normalized in our society?” ⠀ ⠀ ⠀#gentleparenting #consciousparenting #parenting #childism ⠀
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    It is fun to screenshot rude social media comments It is fun to screenshot rude social media comments against breastfeeding, and overlay them onto images of Mary feeding Jesus 😇 #breastfeeding #breastfeedinginpublic #nurseinpublic #naturalparenting #parenting #attachmentparenting
    Emotional intelligence is where it’s at. Also, s Emotional intelligence is where it’s at. Also, some folks use toxic positivity to bypass uncomfortable topics like racism and misogyny, effectively upholding white supremacy and the patriarchy. #emotionalintelligence #positivevibes
    This one right here, this is it. One of the very b This one right here, this is it. One of the very best ways to provide safety, stability, and love to our children is to learn about ourselves, our trauma, and what it takes to regulate our nervous system. #gentleparenting #parenting #peacefulparenting #consciousparenting #emotionalintelligence
    It’s very reminiscent of an abusive relationship It’s very reminiscent of an abusive relationship. Abusers feel entitled to do whatever they want, while the response of the victim is harshly judged. Abusers never hold themselves to the standards they impose on their victims. #tyrenichols #endpolicebrutality
    🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸 #tyrenichols #tyre #poli 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸 #tyrenichols #tyre #policebrutality
    Via @saulwilliams Via @saulwilliams
    Inhumane and cruel on so many levels. #tyrenicho Inhumane and cruel on so many levels. #tyrenichols
    Via @nellie_scales ・・・ “What can I do?” Via @nellie_scales ・・・ “What can I do?” One thing you can do is be brave and truthful in your own homes and classrooms. School districts across the country are stripping curriculum of accurate history. You can practice telling the truth in your home and advocate to your school board with conviction. Children grow up with a false narrative about policing because they are inundated with copaganda from toys, shows, and books. We dishonor our children and risk their future safety by continuing to lie to them. Start with MLK talk about how police didn’t want him and other activists to create a better world so they arrested him 29 times. Just start somewhere. @nellie_scales AntiBias Educator and Facilitator Accessibility: 1st slide [tweet by Janelle Scales] Parents and educators you can do one thing today to help end the abusive policing system in this country. Stop portraying police as public servants and tell the truth. Talk about police arresting MLK 29 times. Talk about police beating suffragists and killing union workers. 2nd slide [tweet by Janelle Scales] Talk to children about police arresting climate activists and water protectors. Talk about police killing Fred Hampton and assaulting Fannie Lou Hamer. Stop feeding our children lies, stop buying cop toys and costumes. Tell kids the truth…finally.” - @nellie_scales
    ALL. OF. THIS. ALL. OF. THIS.
    Never had to worry whether or not an event has an Never had to worry whether or not an event has an accessible entrance? That’s called privilege. Never been profiled due to your skin color? Never lost a job based solely on the name on your application? Never been discriminated against for your hair texture? That’s called privilege. Never had to worry where your next meal will come from? Never had to wonder how to apply for jobs when you have no address nor phone number? Never been instructed to grip keys in your fist if you walk alone, in case you get attacked? Never been told to cover your drink at all times, and then blamed for your own assault based on what you were wearing? That’s called privilege. Acknowledging privilege helps us understand how others experience the world. It promotes empathy and compassion. It inspires people to advocate for those who do not have the same privilege. Your default experience is not everyone’s experience, and that’s ok. What’s not ok is assuming that everyone has the same access and abilities. Privilege is real and it’s ok to admit it.
    It’s not ok to hit people (unless it’s in self It’s not ok to hit people (unless it’s in self-defense). Kids are people too. #gentleparenting #nonviolentcommunication #consciousparenting #parenting #motherhood
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    “Ever since the federal government declared Janu “Ever since the federal government declared January 17th a national holiday to honor Martin Luther King Jr., many White people have misquoted his words, twisting them into a colorblind fantasy that goes against the very spirit of his life's work. White folks’ ritualistic sugarcoating is more than disrespectful — it's cringeworthy. His daughter, Bernice King, has spoken about this problem: “In ’68 my father was one of the most hated men in America, and now he’s one of the most loved men in the world,” she said. “So much so that people do take liberties and kind of take different quotes to fit their situation, and nothing is more frustrating for me than that.” One of the most misquoted speeches is Martin Luther King Jr.'s I Have A Dream Speech. Part of his dream was that "little Black boys and Black girls join hands with little White boys and White girls and walk together as sisters and brothers." Conservatives often use this nugget to claim King wanted us to live in a colorblind society. But he didn't. In today's America, Black people are still dealing with discrimination, fighting against the second-class citizenry, which seems to dominate the Black American experience. Defeating segregation legally through the Civil Rights Act of 1964 doesn't change the fact that public schools are more segregated today than they were in the late 60s, housing is more segregated than it was a generation ago, the home-ownership gap is wider than it was 50 years ago, and more Black men are imprisoned than were enslaved in 1850. If any of those misquoting Martin Luther King Jr. really cared about his dream, they would understand that today's America would be his nightmare.” #mlk #mlkday
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